Crippling Anxiety And Mammy Banter

Mom Asks - Dania Al Asadi

26 September 2021

Mammy Banter – Mom Thinks Interview

The pre-order launch of Serena self-penned new book, titled “Mammy Banter – The Secret Life of an Uncool Mum”. Check it out here

Mom Thinks caught up with TikTok star Mammy Banter aka Serena Terry known for her absolutely hilarious TikTok and Instagram reels. She also is using her social media platform to tell her own personal story. She recently focused on her story leading up to Suicide Prevention Day, with a video that touched so many. This was in the hope that it would help at least one person to reach out for help.

Speaking to Serena not only allowed me to relate to her hilarious videos but relate to her on a mental health aspect.

In September, you posted on the Mammy Banter page about your current state of mind. Why did you share that?

I’ve always been open about my mental health right from the start. It’s great to have a platform to spread laughter, but it’s also really important for me to keep it real. The theme of my content is real life, ugly bits and all, so staying true that I decided to share a video on my own mental health in the hope that even one person would see it and it may help them.

Do you believe TikTok or social media has helped you express yourself and as a result helped your mental health?

TikTok massively helped me. At the start of the first lockdown, I was freshly grieving the loss of my two brothers 6 months prior. I already had anxiety at this stage, and when lockdown hit and there was so much bad news, I couldn’t bear going on Instagram at the time due to a lot of the content on my feed being ‘perfect’. The issue was of course my own insecurities at the time and we may all know it’s not real life, but it doesn’t help when you’re looking at perfect pictures of perfect women in their perfect homes during a global pandemic. I was losing my shit, drinking far too much wine, failing at homeschooling and putting on a lot of weight – I wanted to see that others were struggling like me.

Mammy Banter did that for me. It presented me with creators that were expressing themselves through real-life calamity, and it gave me a place where I could do the same, and bring some real-life humour into the mix.

Do you feel social media platforms have a duty to look after the mental wellbeing of their users?

Personally, yes, and in a few ways.

I think social media platforms most definitely have to have accountability for the younger generation first and foremost – in terms of protection and validation of their age.

The same goes for trolls and tighter regulations on identity. I have seen so many people trolled in horrendous ways due to ‘fake’ or ‘hidden’ profiles thinking it’s ok to just bash someone publicly on social media. I think it is disgusting.

Do you feel social media platforms such as Mammy Banter have a duty to look after the mental wellbeing of their users?

Personally, yes, and in a few ways.

I think social media platforms most definitely have to have accountability for the younger generation first and foremost – in terms of protection and validation of their age.

The same goes for trolls and tighter regulations on identity. I have seen so many people trolled in horrendous ways due to ‘fake’ or ‘hidden’ profiles thinking it’s ok to just bash someone publicly on social media. I think it is disgusting.

As a mental health advocate, what is the most common thing you hear from people living with mental health conditions?


A lot of people relate to my story of putting too much pressure on myself as a mum and a woman. It’s the misconception that we need to constantly have our shit together whilst multi-tasking and juggling careers, kids, social lives, healthy lifestyles, love lives and everything in between. It’s hard, and we do put pressure on ourselves to keep up. It doesn’t help when you feel like you’re failing or alone, but most women feel ashamed or afraid to ask for help.

Admitting that you need help seems to be a common frustration – but it’s the most important step.

What do you wish mums knew about mental health?

That its normal to have mental health issues. It’s acceptable, it’s part of life. The stigma attached to mental health and medication is still a hard one to remove from peoples mindsets but owning it, truly understanding that its ok and that looking after you and asking for help, will allow you to say ‘Fuck the stigma’ ‘This is me, and I’m owning my mental health issues, my mental health issues don’t own me. I’m not ashamed, I’m brave, I’m strong and I have sought a solution to help me be a happier person. That’s what I say anyway.

Why do you think this topic is such a taboo?

I often think about this, I think it has a lot to do with our generation growing up in a time when anything related to mental health issues had connotations of not being a normal person. You weren’t really allowed to talk about it and anyone known to have mental health issues was seen as lesser people.

Times are most definitely changing though, we just need more people with big influence to come out and spread the word and share their stories.

Do you consider yourself a role model for mental health? Do you ‘practise what you preach’?

I’m not a role model for mental health by any means – I mean I’m the worst person in the world at times for self-care, and I’m also far from perfect, but no one is and the key is remembering that. I do feel proud of people able to share my story though and be open and honest about it.

Do you have advice for mums who are too embarrassed or would feel judged to get help?

Realise that you fearing judgement is damaging your mental health even more. Being a mother is hard, but it’s also one of the most rewarding experiences in the world, but if you’re not well, you can’t be the best version of yourself for your children.

If you had a pain in your leg for a while, you would go see the doctor. So, why wouldn’t you go see the doctor about your mental health?

The process is super confidential, you don’t have to come out screaming it from the rooftops unless you really want to. Fuck the stigma and the judgement, look after yourself and your happiness.

What do you want mums with mental health conditions to know?

That you are normal. You are so passionate about being a mother that you’ve no doubt either burnt yourself out mentally or had a little pit-stop after spinning way too many plates. It’s in our nature to want to do everything and be great at everything, and the mum guilt is a bitch. But, it is a testament to how much you want to nurture and provide for your family. Please look after yourself, there is only one you, and you’re the only mum your kids have.

Disclaimer: Mom Thinks is not responsible for the advice given here. It is intended as informational purposes only. It does not replace professional medical or mental health advice, support, diagnosis or treatment. Please contact your GP or other health professionals for guidance specific to your needs.

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